Dating Articles

I was surfing the net yesterday when I saw this article on dating. It was written by Ian McNeice. The article specifically tackles how to ask someone for a date. So, if you're not playing any online computer games, you might want to take down notes. McNeice listed down thirteen tips. First, ask yourself if you have the right reasons to ask them for a date. What will be your reaction if they say yes or no? Be prepared for rejection and do not take it personally. Practice what you want to say so that you will not be tongue-tied. Ensure you already have the details of the date, like the time and venue, in case the person says yes. Be ready when that person asks you the reason why you want to date him/her. Anticipate this moment "would you like to come to dinner, I have always thought you are great fun..".

Also, make sure that your request for a date does not pressure the person. Always smile and be confident when asking someone for a date. Make sure to have an alternative date and time or location in mind if the person is not certain with his/her schedule. If he/she says no, don't
ask for the reason, just move on. Make sure that you actually intend to go through with the dating. Ian McNeice also mentioned that if you are being asked out, don't play games. Be honest if you need time to consider the offer. If you want to say no, say it immediately. Do not keep someone hanging just for the heck of it. Then, try to avoid dutch-courage such as using alcohol to boost your confidence level. This strategy often backfires. Finally, you should ask them privately instead of in front of her friends.

Everything seems dark, lonely, and useless. You feel like your world is collapsing and nothing else exist but your shattered and bitter heart. Yup, those are symptoms of a heart broken into tiny bits of pieces. How to deal with such painful moment of your love life? Here's how.

First and foremost, you need to take a deep breath and confidently assure yourself that you can survive from the pain. It is most difficult to wake up in the morning and again realized that your most beloved relationship is finally over. But then, if you will keep on assuring yourself that you can get over it, I am definitely positive that you will be. Next is to talk to your family members or close friends about what happened. In this way, you would be able to voice out your grievances and hurt to those people who knows and understand you. You might also need distractions from your pained heart, so try watching different kinds of movies or do the things you missed doing. Third is to start dating and meeting new people. In doing so, you would be able to direct your attention to new and less established peeps. Finally, assess your broken relationship and find out what caused the relationship to end. This way, you will be able to learn something form it, and such lessons will surely help you in your future relationships.

So if your heart got shattered by someone very dear to you, never think that its the end of your world. Be realistic and always keep a clear mind of the situation. Just always remember this cliche phrase (but hey, it always works): "This too shall pass."

All of us are in search for 'The One.' We are looking for the person who will complement our lifestyle, our outlook, who will be able to bring something to our already hectic lifestyle but will never ever ask us to compromise. You are looking for that 'one' special person and yet amazingly it appears that those who are so choosy appear to have heavily overvalued their own 'relationship wealth'. Women have a lot of pseudo-spiritual concept when describing their ideal partner, kind a like "soul mate" or someone they have deep 'connection' or 'chemistry' with in an intellectual and emotional level.

There are women who would say 'I am happier single than accepting second best'. Second best appears to be everything that isn't perfect in the eyes of the beholder, someone who should start to feel they have issues. When setting a precedent of standards in dating, people set themselves up to be constantly let down, and it is unlikely in the short term that anyone will match their checklist because however great the date has just been, there may be someone waiting who is even better, who is 'the One'. Dating is a chemical reaction, definitely not about pre-hand checklists, not about computer date matching, and not about predetermined ideas about people, but about good meaningful communication and intellect and physical chemistry and instant emotions.

Have you noticed that the most intelligent of people, especially men, are having huge dating problems? With their intelligence you would think that they have all the answers, but when it comes to love even the most intelligent, especially the most intelligent, acts very dumb. First reason is that smart men cannot accept the fact that an average woman has the answers to life's simple things. Most intelligent men are egoistic and self-absorb. They think of dating as a quiz bee or computer game that they need to win.

Another reason is that they lack social skills. They spent all their life reading books and in front of the computer shutting the world around them. Smart men are not used to the challenge. They treat everything like a math equation that they can solve in minutes and they can't seem to wait.

If something fails, smart men use only their brain to come up with the best rationalization for the situation, which most of the time leaves them frustrated. When they fail to come up with an answer, they resort to being the "nice guy." They think that by doing the good things women will be attracted to them the same way a teacher favors an obedient student over the others. Wake up, guys! Life is not a classroom.

When I was watching an episode of one of the famous television series in this age, Sex and the City, I was completely appalled by the one-liner that I heard in one scene with Miranda. The phrase "He's just not that into you" suddenly caught me off-guard. It was as if those were the words that everyone was afraid to hear, but, needs to hear otherwise. In this scene, a guy told this phrase to Miranda, after her date or shall I say, relationship, went splat and AWOL. But, generally speaking, I think that this phrase really applies to everyone else, gender aside.

He's just not that into you is a phrase which originated from Greg Behrendt. He is the famous author of the book entitled, well, "He's Just Not That Into You". If I were a woman who just had her first date, and her date has not yet called her for like, forever, I think it is about time to tell herself that, he's just not that into you.

This would save a woman from the insanity of figuring out how adult guys really are, still clueless. I would suggest this book to all the women who are still seeking for answers about their failed dates and failed relationships. I would have told this to a woman, myself, but, I do not have the guts to. So, the book would have to say it all.

I am pretty slow when it comes to reading flirting signs. I can never really tell if a woman's just being nice, if she's genuinely nice, or if she's being nice because she likes me. Either way, I do not know a woman's way of flirting. Sometimes, I would think that she's just giving me mixed signals. When a guy likes a girl, it's just too obvious to even allot time to figure it out. Guys are just easy to read. Girls are, well, they're pretty much complicated and mysterious when it comes to liking guys.

How would you know if she's into you? Well, it's a plus to know if she likes you so you can immediately ask her out immediately for that dreamy romantic date. If a woman makes an effort for you to notice her, well, you might want to see that as a sign. When she passes you by and glances at you or gives you a smile, that's not just being nice. She's actually flirting with you already. When a woman is toying with the strands of her hair, or she keeps on tucking her hair under her ear, that's flirting.

When a woman starts up a chat with you, it means that she wants to talk. Thus, she is starting the flirting ritual. Whenever a woman shows interest in a guy's interests, she wants to know who you are and what you like. Lastly and most importantly, when a woman makes ways to touch you, well, you've already won a battle that you haven't even started. All you have to do is make the next move, your turn.

For eons, men had complete control over whether how and when to say the four words that so many women long to hear: "Will you marry me?" But, that's not the case anymore. Nowadays, women are challenging the status quo by getting down on their knees and asking Mr. Right's hand in marriage. Yes, the proposing kind is quite a challenge.

This custom might seem odd, but the idea has quietly become a tradition done during leap year. Through all the marriage and dating issues women face, they are now encouraged to ask their men to marry them. Though the increasingly widespread practice of women-led proposals might raise a few eyebrows, more and more women are getting what they want - a new husband or a clearer picture of where their relationship is (or is not) headed.

Old wedding traditions are not taboo, but taking advantage of women's right can be very attractive to those who are pretty sure that they already have found the perfect guy to be their partner in life. The most important, however, in making wedding proposals is sincerity. Men can identify if their women are asking for marriage just to keep them around, and not because of pure love. Women should prepare themselves and think a hundred times before proposing to their men, since marriage is a lifetime obligation.

My friends always tell me to try out the speedy internet services to find a date or a mate. I never tried it though. I thought that online acquaintances are superficial and pretentious. So, I never tried the dating thing. But then, I gave it a serious thought. So, I joined a friend-networking site. I suddenly had so many friends that I felt that it might actually work for me. I started to check my profile everyday and I began to have some surreal conversations with my online friends. It was a refreshing thing to do with my personal computer.

One day, I was surfing the net when someone sent me a message via the friend-networking site. He complimented me on my music interest. I checked his profile and then I found out that we both liked the same type of music. I was suddenly interested and wanted to know more. Then and there, we began to talk and chat online. Everyday we would get to know each other more. A time came when he asked if we could meet. I immediately agreed. He actually lives very far from my house, but still he came to see me. We hit it off the moment we saw each other. Until now, we have a deep connection and I think that it will last for a very long time. I even feel that he's actually the one for me. Sappy, but true. I never thought that I would meet someone like him just through the internet. So, if you're losing hope, all things are possible. Lay yourself out there, er, over the internet perhaps?

Everyone goes through dating. From eating hotdogs down the street, to dining in a fine gourmet restaurant, it can be called as a date. When you're with the person you like, everything you do may seem like a perfect date. If you're planning on a perfectly sublime date, you have to make sure that everything falls into place, the moment, the time, and the place. Of course, let's not forget that magical spark and that inevitable stomach butterflies.

A sublime date does not literally translate to over-the-top dates. It only means that you have got to have that absolute connection. I suggest that if this is what you want to happen, make it happen. Initiate a date setting that can allow you to really talk and get to know each other. A good communication is vital for the both of you. You will surely hit it off if you give real attention to your date. Going to loud and crowded places would only make your eyes, let alone your ears wander. You'll never get the chance to take in what your date has to say. Go to a place wherein you will be comfortable. Of course, a little music won't hurt. But, go someplace wherein you would enjoy the music and the conversation. This would translate to subliminal because you're at ease with the setting and of course, with each other.

The best date I have ever been into was an unexpected one. I met this guy at a concert. Next day, I invited him out for lunch. It took guts to ask him out. He gladly agreed and we met. We ate at a local Arabic restaurant. After a few talks over food, he suggested we get some coffee after.

I asked him if he knew the time. Instead of answering me, he kept his watch in his pocket and said we shouldn't mind the time. At least five hours passed at the coffee shop. He took a leave at the office now.

Next thing I know, we were at a bar having a couple of beers. We talked about everything. It seemed like we've known each other for years. We exchange jokes and stories about exes, friends and adventures.

After almost getting drunk, he took me home. We didn't kiss, take note. He was a pure gentleman and just hugged me.

Anyway, what I'm really getting at is that you should never be afraid to ask someone out even if you are a woman or man. Just take the plunge and ask someone you like for a date. You'll never know when you're going to have a great time.

People from all parts of the world have caught up with the online dating flu. Therefore, it is of no wonder that people who date online experience long distance relationships.

Making a relationship work is a hard thing to do in itself. Long distance relationships are even harder to manage. It is no news that trust issues will be more of a test to those in a long distance relationship compared to those who are just near their loved ones.

This can not be helped. The two people are staying miles from each other. Therefore, it's perfectly normal for couples to have some doubts. However, it is important for them not to let their doubts get in the way of their relationship. It would be best for them to communicate on a regular basis. This way, their doubts can somehow be lessened.

Falling in love is the best feeling for anybody. Falling in love at the right time, at the right place, with the right person; who is the right person for you? Someone who loves you more than you love him, someone you know personally, and someone you get along with, how about someone who is like you? We see people everywhere being with persons who are different from them as far as nationality is concerned.

We see Americans with Indians, Indians with Filipinos, Filipinos with Chinese, Chinese with Mexicans, Mexicans with Italians, etc. Are there problems that go with it? Yes. For one, you should consider giving up your nationality and religion in the near future. You should be more understanding as your partner lived in another culture and he/she might have beliefs different from yours. I don't see any problem in loving a foreigner. We should always remember that love knows no boundaries and everybody's common language is love. Hey, be ready to taste new dishes too!

Relax. You’re in a swell party, not in army court. For sure, everyone is nice, and means well, and is just as concerned with making an impression as you are. Quit that private conversation with yourself, where you worry about people noticing your otherwise non-existent blemishes and smudges. And for Pete’s sake, lose that book.

Enjoy. The food, the music, the sight, this whole delightful fever of people converging to lose themselves and find each other after a day’s mind-numbing work. Mingle with the flock, listen appreciatively, make small but sensible talk, laugh at the appropriate places, and basically have a good time. You’re just fine. Get in touch with the moment because, after all, how many sweet romantic opportunities can you get?

Remember. There are far more important things in this world than fear and shyness. Don’t miss the whole point of being who you are.

A man bends on one knee, takes a box from a pocket, and asks his girlfriend the big question, "Will you marry me?" This is the traditional way of asking for a girl's hand. However, times have absolutely changed, even for the proposing department.


Women want a marriage proposal that they can remember for the rest of their lives. You may think that there's no other way of professing your endless love. Guess what? You thought wrong. There are several ways to propose. It just needs some creativity. Remember, the more original the proposal, the better. You can even ask for the help of friends or maybe even strangers. Hopefully, your girlfriend will agree to the proposal. Soon, you will be on your way to becoming a fiance.

Dating, which is a tradition in most countries have started during the early civilizations. Although women were not still enjoying the freedom they do today, courting them is still a necessity. From the old generations, several methods of dating like giving of beautiful flowers and doing household chores, have been passed to the next batch. More importantly, dating has become an important aspect in the process of having an intimate relationship.

Perhaps the foremost reason why dating is still prominent is the reality that it help build stronger bonds. Surveys would indicate that couples who started with dating tend to have lasting relationships. To boot, people who have experienced dating are more receptive of the circumstances that are expected to happen in a relationship. Having said that, people who dated are more understanding and do recognize the need to do something in the hope of preserving the relationship.

There are many men and women who actively participate in the online dating scene, probably because finding dates online is very cheap compared to actually bar-hopping to find partners. Most of these people though are serious about finding others who they want to date; some are even seriously looking for life partners. Unfortunately, there are those who only seem to be looking for casual partners, and there are also those who pretend to be single when they actually aren't. With the first case, it's pretty much easy to understand - there are people who cannot commit and have serious relationships. But the latter case is just absurd.

There are some popular internet sites that actually encourage cheating. It's true that the internet is a way to express oneself freely; but should you express yourself at the expense of your partner? There are people who have been airing their concerns with the sudden proliferation of sites that encourage members cheating on their partners. Call those who do not approve of such sites as too morally uptight, but they have their reasons to not support this type of sites. Dating is supposed to be about socializing and finding a partner while having fun, and never about having fun at the expense of others.

Fornication - sexual intercourse between two unmarried individuals. If fornication is a crime then 80% of the people who are dating are criminals. Pre marital sex is not a big deal in the society nowadays. People do it with people they love - boyfriend or girlfriend, some do it with their Sex Buddy.Some even do it to earn money. The issue about it is that for Christians, sexual intercourse should happen only after marriage. Sex brings the relationship into a new and deeper level. It makes the couple more emotional and they develop a deep bond and trust. Sex is important to a man as it is to a woman. Unmarried couples should be careful so as not to get the girl pregnant and get diseases from their partners. I don't think there's anything wrong with pre marital sex as long as you are careful and you are doing it with the right person.

Online dating is becoming more and more popular nowadays, but there's still no getting around the fact that there are a lot more men who go online dating than women. So how does a guy compete with others to get a woman's attention?

As there are more men than women in online dating, it is better for guys to make the first move instead of waiting for women to introduce themselves. It's funny, but online dating is actually like a first come, first serve basis. Whoever gets there first has the advantage. Women want men to show confidence by acting quickly and they also give these men more chances of meeting them in person. Online dating is a woman's game. She sets the rules and the guys just simply have to abide by them.

Warning! Only read the following if you have a deep pocket and can afford to buy a shiny lump of crystallized coal.

What? You're still here? Then I guess you must be very rich or very in love. anyway, we all know that diamonds are a girl's best friend, so learning how to give her one is a skill you ought to know. So we'll start with the 4 c's:

Clarity - Refers to how clear a diamond is. Sometimes diamonds will have small imperfections or scratches, called inclusions, and these can affect the price of a diamond. The fewer the inclusions, the higher the price.

Color - Diamonds have, believe it or not, color which range from a subtle yellow to a stand-out blue. These are graded from the letter D all the way to Z. The closer it is to D, the higher the price will be.

Carats - Are probably the most famous way to determine the value of a diamond. A carat refers to the weight of a diamond, not its size. A large diamond might actually have a lighter weight than a small one. A carat is divided into 100 points, so a half a carat weighs .5 carats.

Cut - Diamonds are cut by craftsmen into specific shapes. Although they may not influence the weight that much, it's often how attractive they turn out that will often determine the final price.

Diamonds make good gifts, and also good investments. So be sure that you can get it back if things go wrong.

Internet dating is very much the fad nowadays. It makes it easier for members of both genders to approach one another. There is really less pressure here. Humiliation is not much of an issue if one gets rejected.

There are relationships that have started from online dating, which have stood the test of time. This is the reason why more and more people are joining the bandwagon. However, how does one know which online dating site to be a member of? There are literally hundreds and hundreds of dating sites that claim they can bring you to your soulmate.

One is encouraged to look at the population of the members for the site. The more members that the site has, the more chances that you will find someone that you will get along with. Also, there are free dating packages that some sites offer. Take advantage of such promos. You will get the feel of online dating from free service. Furthermore, you don't need to pay if you don't find the service satisfactory.

Now we'll discuss one of my biggest, if not my ultimate turn-off: The self-centered man. You know the type. The ones that look in the mirror all the time, fuss too much about their looks, and always, always ask for your opinion only if it concerns their looks, and even then only acknowledge you when it's a good opinion.

But being self-centered isn't only about being vain about your looks. Another type of self-centered man is the one who only talks about himself, his problems, his achievements and how the world either owes him big time or that he owns it all. He's the type that should go to domainregister.com and get himself his own .com site!

Avoid there type of men at all costs, unless you're a masochist or a glutton for punishment.

No, no. We're not talking about luggage here. This entry has nothing to do with air travel, but everything to do about getting your head out of your ass and getting a date.

The excess baggage I'm referring to here refers to all that negative, painful emotions and memories you still carry around from your last relationship disaster. These can put a heavy step in your walk, thus the term "excess baggage," something that makes your walking or movement difficult.

Getting rid of the pain and regret is difficult, but something that needs to be done. And a good way to start is to accept it, and learn from it, and finally realizing that you can have a relationship again, that somewhere out there, there is somebody who will "get" you and make you happy again. Hang in there!

It's tough to deal with a relationship break-up. But sometimes it has to be done, for your good and the good of the other person, too. Sometimes you're at fault, or at times the other. But the bottom line is that breaking up is a difficult thing, and shouldn't be treated like a "get out of jail free" card. There are many things to consider.

Does the good outweigh the bad? Or does the pain of certain actions weigh more in your heart than the good times you've had?

Do you think that you'll be happy with each other in the future? There's no sense in staying together if you're both unhappy with the arrangements.

Is the market open? What I mean is that would you rather be with someone else than your partner?

Does your partner care about you? Do you care about them?

And lastly, do you trust each other? Without this one requirement, your relationship is nothing but a sham.

Face it, guys: Women just adore romance. Even those that claim that they don't, in their heart of hearts, actually do. And a good way to bring out that romantic side is by watching a good old-fashioned romantic movie.

Now, now, before you run away screaming, remember that romantic film makers have also taken into consideration the other half of their audiences: Those men who were dragged, kicking and screaming, into the theatre. And thus, the romantic comedy was developed as a way to keep men interested in the movie.

So, like it or not, romantic movies are part and parcel of the dating scene. Some men eventually just accept it and move on, while others just pretend to be watching, just to keep the peace.

Cheating is one of the most painful things that a partner can do to another person. All the deception, lies and smokescreens done to cover up their wrongdoing only serve to further hurt the one cheated on. But many people do it anyway. Here are some tips to help the ladies find out if they're being given the shaft.

Being defensive is a classic sign of guilt and can even be turned against you if you're not careful.

Hearing a lot of excuses lately? Is he being late, meeting other clients or working all night? He might be seeing someone on the side, so be extra observant and keep your eyes peeled.

Are you getting a lot of dropped calls lately? Maybe your guy's new girl may be trying to talk to your man.

And are you getting gifts "just because?" Maybe it's because he feels guilty, that's why!